For those of you who haven't followed this blog or forgot what happens in the embarrassingly long time between posts on the same subject that I have to admit to, I decided to take a more active approach to dating. This has obviously resulted in a number of hilarious and humiliating (and a few somewhat heartbreaking) moments and trials. Due in large part to the last "h" listed, I took a little break from dating for a bit and went back to my old stranger-danger and sweatpant scare tactics to discourage any potential suitors. But now that school's out, I decided it was time to get back on the horse (so to speak).
And thus, I present date #1 of this summer: a guy with a job who is from up north, but has very little education and lives with his parents. That last part is freaking me out already. He's a big sports fan and we do seem to get along fairly well, though I'm not sure I feel any real sparks. I hate it, but I know my tendency is to drag it out for longer because it's something to do and possibly get a little excited about and then I just want to postpone breaking it off... I go back and forth because I know it's not always love at first sight, but I don't want to lead anyone on. But then I know that it takes time to get to know someone and that the superficial things can change and so they don't matter. And I don't really know that it won't work out, not if I actually try to make it work...
In a lot of ways, I'm just really on the fence about it and I hate that feeling - there are some people that I know right away are a "yes" and then there are some "no" guys, but what do you do with the in-between guys? Enjoy a few more dates and then make a decision?
I've honestly changed my mind approximately 7 times today and am ultimately glad I didn't act on any of those "decisions." What do you guys think? When do you cut your losses and when do you invest more?
And a note: When looking for some kind of image or something clever to post with this entry, I found some articles on girls hooking up v. having relationships (written from a variety of perspectives, from how women judge men's faces and their attractiveness based up on how interested in children he appears to be to an investigation of the shunning of real relationships by young women). This has led me to wonder if I should read this book by Laura Sessions Stepp called Unhooked: How Young Women Pursue Sex, Delay Love, and Lose at Both. I searched for this book online and there seems to be a lot of backlash against this writer and her seeming crusade to protect virginity and abstinence, but there also seems to be some interesting literature about the changing sexuality of young women. I think some of this is going to have to be added to my summer reading list...
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