Musical Chairs

If this entry was an episode of "Friends," it would be called "the one where I attempt to make a Carrie Bradshaw-style statement about relationships" (or something like that)!

I've decided that dating and relationships are a bit like a giant game of musical chairs when you're in your twenties. People that are married and in long-term relationships are like those people who are completely convinced that the music is about to shut off and thus they stand quite close to the chair they want to take and barely circle around it, pretty much squatting over it and barely making any kind of movement.

Meanwhile, being single is like remaining in the game and running around in giant circles because you know that the music isn't going to come to an end, at least not right away and then even if it did, the odds that you'll be the one left out and left alone are honestly not much greater if you continue to keep your head up so you can see what's around you (and even go explore it), and play the game fully than if you decided to do the squat and tiny circle.

Because ultimately, even if you do "settle down" now, that's no real guarantee that you won't be the only one left standing when the music ends...

2 comments:

Anonymous May 29, 2009 at 3:51 PM  

Hm. I like this analogy.

Although couldn't we also be standing next to the chair (aka relationship) because we like the song and just want to enjoy it for awhile?

Dating does totally suck though. I once equated men with chocolate. i don't remember exactly how i did it since it was a few blog sites ago but I did.

Love this blog layout!

Mel May 30, 2009 at 1:11 PM  

Hmm... I haven't quite worked out how all of this works yet, but it was something I came up with while trying to generate a better response to people who critique my single-life-style... telling them to mind their own business and/or announcing that I'm sad until I get to have hot make-out sessions with near-strangers (a tame version of a comeback from some fairly recent movie...) is just getting old...

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The adventures of a twentysomething pursuing a Ph.D. in the behavioral sciences, living with the dog that is the love of my life, and battling everything from becoming an academic to small town insanity. I blog about everything related to sports, my dog, psychology and other social science stuff in the news, my dad's battle with cancer, dating in a world full of married people, and anything else I see that catches my eye!

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